Understanding Gaslighting: Recognize and Protect Yourself | Ms. Otelia's Corner

The term "gaslighting" comes from a play in 1938 called "Gas Light" by Patrick Hamilton. In the play, a husband tricks his wife into doubting what she sees by making the lights in their home dimmer. When she asks about the changes, he acts as if nothing is different. This idea of "gaslighting" now means when someone tries to make you doubt your own reality. This connects with narcissism, which is when someone thinks they're better than others.

In the play, the husband's actions show he's trying to control his wife's feelings and thoughts. This is similar to how narcissists often behave. They want to control others to show they're more important. For example, they might belittle other people's achievements to make themselves look better. They might also act like they're superior by being overly polite and giving the impression they know more than others. They might always need people to tell them they're great, even if they pretend they're better than everyone else. Sometimes, they take credit for things others do to boost their own image. And when they make mistakes, they might not admit them because they want to seem perfect. They might not really listen when others talk because they don't care about others' feelings or thoughts.

Another way they act is by having different personalities around different people. For instance, at home, they might be mean or bossy. But they'll be all friendly and nice around certain people they want to impress. And then, when they're around everyone else, they might act like they're the best and know everything. It's like they're playing a role to fit in and look good, no matter who they're with.

People can also act this way for other reasons, like feeling unsure, stressed, or having trouble talking with others. Remember, determining if someone has a significant problem with narcissism requires a professional who knows a lot about mental health.

Have you encountered a gaslighter? Have you ever met someone who tried to mess with your head, making you doubt yourself? Recognizing these things can empower you to stand up against them and take the first step toward breaking free from their trap. Let's support one another, build stronger communities, and help those who are in need.

Sources

Wikipedia contributors. (2023, August 14). "Gas Light." Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved August 14, 2023, from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light

Wikipedia contributors. (2023, August 14). "Patrick Hamilton (writer)." Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved August 14, 2023, from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patrick_Hamilton_(writer)#References