Remembering our Grandmother. Bessie (née Morton) Johnson 1908-1932

Today Marks the 93rd Anniversary of the death of our Grandmother, Bessie (née Morton) Rominger Turrentine Johnson

Bessie (1908 – June 17, 1932) was the daughter of Novele Morton Rominger (1896–1924) and Ed Rominger (1870–1945). She was one of six children and part of a generation shaped by both hardship and hope.

Her siblings were:

• Edna (1912–1999)

• Fred (1914–1987)

• Mary Jane (1916–1993)

• Clinton (1920–1973)

• A sibling who died in childbirth in 1922

• Dora (1924–1950)

Bessie married Roosevelt Turrentine on March 27, 1929, in Halifax, Virginia, and they had one daughter, Lucille “Lucy” (1927–2004). She later married Troy Johnson on June 19, 1930, in Danville, Virginia, and they had one daughter, Ella Louise Thompson (née Johnson, 1928–2003).

Ella was just five years old when Bessie passed away in 1932. Losing her mother at such a young age left a lasting wound that she carried throughout her life. The absence of Bessie’s presence—her guidance, protection, and love—was deeply felt and often reflected in the way Ella spoke of her mother’s memory. Even without many stories passed down, the grief that followed Bessie’s passing speaks volumes about the love and importance she held in her family’s heart.

Bessie’s legacy continues through her grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren, who carry forward the memory of her life and lineage.

When You Love Someone But Can’t Step In: It’s Not That I Don’t Care — I Just Know I Can’t Fix It - Ms. Otelia's Corner

 Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is nothing.

To love someone deeply, care fiercely, and still realize: this isn’t mine to fix.

We’re taught to show up, speak up, do something — and often, that’s the right thing. But there are moments when silence isn’t avoidance, and stepping back isn’t the same as walking away.

Sometimes we go quiet not because we don’t care, but because we care so much that we know our words won’t help.
We know advice might come out wrong.
We know forcing solutions might cause more harm.
We know the moment calls for space — not action.

This doesn’t mean we’ve stopped loving or listening.
It means we’ve recognized a boundary between support and control, between presence and pressure.

Being there doesn’t always mean being involved.
Sometimes it means holding the door open from a distance.
Praying in silence.
Letting someone know: I’m here, just not in the way you might expect.

This kind of quiet support is harder than it looks. It takes restraint. Maturity. Faith.
And sometimes it’s misunderstood — because people assume silence means indifference.
But if you’ve ever stood on the edge of someone else’s storm, hands tied, heart aching, you know:
Sometimes love is letting go of the urge to fix.

So if you’re staying quiet in a situation because there’s nothing more you can do — that’s not failure.
That’s wisdom.
That’s trust.
That’s love showing up in its most patient form.

Honoring Those Who Came Before Us: A Simple Reflection on Ancestral Veneration - Ms. Otelia's Corner

In many cultures, ancestral veneration is not about worship — it’s about respect, remembrance, and relationship. It’s the quiet understanding that we didn’t get here on our own. We carry the prayers, the pain, and the perseverance of those who came before us — whether we know their names or not.

For some, honoring ancestors means lighting a candle or placing a photo on an altar. For others, it’s cooking a family recipe, saying a name out loud, or simply taking a moment to give thanks. There’s no one way to do it, and that’s the beauty of it — ancestral veneration is personal, powerful, and rooted in presence.

Here’s the truth:

• You don’t need expensive tools.

• You don’t need to know your whole family tree.

• You don’t even need to have the “right” words.

All you need is intention.

A whispered thank you in the morning.
A cup of coffee poured in someone’s memory.
A photo dusted and displayed with care.

These are acts of connection — reminders that life doesn’t begin and end with us. We are links in a long, unbroken chain.

For me, ancestral veneration is about grounding.

Grounding is the practice of reconnecting yourself to the present moment — mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When life feels chaotic or uncertain, grounding helps bring you back to center. And remembering your ancestors — their strength, their survival, their sacrifices — can be a powerful way to do that.

When I pause to honor them, I remember that I’m not standing on shaky ground. I’m standing on stories, on prayers, on strength that was passed down. Whether I light a candle or just speak their name, it reminds me: I’m not alone. I come from something. I am something.

That’s what ancestral veneration does.
It brings peace in the present.
It gives meaning to the past.
And it plants strength for the future.

When The Chaos of Life Meets the Consistency of God - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Life doesn’t always wait for us to catch up. It rushes in — unannounced and unfiltered — bringing both joy and hardship in the same breath. One moment you’re laughing, the next you’re overwhelmed. Plans fall through. People disappoint. Sickness knocks. Grief lingers. And just when you think you’ve made it through one thing, here comes something else. Life keeps lifeing.

But even in all that mess — God keeps Goding.

That may not be proper grammar, but it’s the realest truth I know.

Because while life shifts, God stays.
While life confuses, God clarifies.
While life drains, God restores.

I’ve had days where I questioned everything — where the weight felt too heavy and the answers were too few. But somewhere in the silence, God reminded me He hadn’t moved. His presence isn’t based on how well life is going. He is still God in the storm, in the waiting room, in the unpaid bill, in the heartbreak, in the healing, in the comeback.

God’s consistency shows up in ways we don’t always expect:

• A timely phone call

• A Scripture that hits different

• A stranger’s kindness

• Peace that makes no sense

We may not always feel Him, but He’s still there — still faithful, still good, still holding it all together when we feel like we’re falling apart.

So if life is chaos right now, don’t lose heart.
You’re not walking through it alone.
The world may be shifting, but the God who holds the world isn’t.

He was God yesterday.
He’s still God today.
And He will be God tomorrow.

How to Celebrate the Holidays on a Budget Without Missing the Festive Spirit

The holidays are a time for joy and togetherness, but they can also be financially stressful. If you’re looking to enjoy the season without breaking the bank, you’re in the right place. Here are simple, budget-friendly ideas to keep the festive spirit alive.

1. DIY Holiday Decorations

Skip the expensive store-bought décor and get creative. Use items you already have at home to make personalized decorations. String popcorn garlands, fold paper snowflakes, or repurpose jars into candle holders. DIY projects are fun and can bring a festive touch to your space.

2. Give Thoughtful, Low-Cost Gifts

Gifts don’t have to be pricey to be meaningful. Consider baking cookies, crafting homemade candles, or writing heartfelt letters. A personalized touch can mean more than an expensive store-bought item.

3. Host a Potluck

Holiday meals can add up quickly. If you’re hosting, ask each guest to bring a dish. This not only cuts costs but also makes for a diverse and memorable spread. If you’re spending the holidays solo, you can still prepare a small, affordable feast just for yourself.

4. Enjoy Free or Low-Cost Activities

Look for community events like free light displays, caroling, or holiday markets. Many cities offer free or low-cost activities during the season. Alternatively, have a cozy movie night at home or explore local parks for a peaceful winter walk.

5. Plan Virtual Gatherings

If you can’t be with loved ones in person, host a virtual holiday party. Use video chat platforms to share a meal, play games, or simply catch up. Virtual gatherings save travel costs while keeping the connection alive.

6. Focus on Gratitude and Togetherness

Sometimes, the best things about the holidays aren’t material. Take time to reflect on what you’re grateful for and cherish the moments with those around you. Even if you’re spending the season alone, connecting with friends or family online can make the holidays feel special.

Celebrating the holidays on a budget doesn’t mean sacrificing joy. With a little creativity and thoughtfulness, you can make this season meaningful without overspending. Remember, the true spirit of the holidays comes from the love, connection, and memories you create.

What are some of your favorite low-cost holiday traditions that make the season special for you?

Exploring the Essence of Faith: Insights from Hebrews 11:1 - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Hebrews 11:1 is celebrated as one of the most profound and inspiring verses in the Bible, it is often highlighted as a central description of faith within the Christian tradition. It eloquently states, "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen." In this blog, we will explore the various interpretations of this verse and consider how its message can resonate in our daily lives. Our aim is to engage with Hebrews 11:1 in a way that inspires personal reflection and offers insight into how faith can be a source of hope and strength, especially during challenging times.

While the Book of Hebrews was originally written for Jewish Christians, its messages resonate universally, especially in the context of enduring challenging times. Hebrews 11, often referred to as the "Faith Chapter," which is particularly relevant. It serves as a beacon of hope and strength, not just for its initial audience, but for anyone seeking solace and guidance during trials and tribulations.

Hebrews 11:1 offers two key components of faith: assurance and conviction. Assurance refers to a confident expectation, a trust in God's promises. Conviction, on the other hand, is a firm belief in the reality of the unseen – the spiritual truths that guide our lives. This verse teaches us that faith is not just wishful thinking, but a confident belief in God's promises and His character.

The essence of faith is not just in understanding but in action. The subsequent verses in Hebrews 11 provide examples of faith in action from biblical figures like Abraham, Moses, and Sarah. Their stories illustrate how faith is not passive but involves active trust and obedience to God, even when the outcome is not visible.

In today's world, where tangible evidence and scientific proof are highly valued, Hebrews 11:1 challenges us to embrace a different kind of certainty – one that is rooted in spiritual conviction and trust in God. It encourages believers to hold onto hope and trust in God's plan, even when the path is unclear.

Faith, as described in Hebrews 11:1, has the power to transform lives. It gives strength in times of trouble, provides hope in despair, and brings clarity in confusion. Faith is the lens through which we can see the world in a different light – one filled with possibilities and divine guidance.

Hebrews 11:1 is more than just a verse; it's a call to a deeper, more profound relationship with God. It invites us to trust in Him, to see beyond our current circumstances, and to believe in the unseen. As we reflect on this powerful scripture, let us strive to embody the true essence of faith in our daily lives.

How does Hebrews 11:1 change your understanding of faith?

Can you recall a time when you had to rely on faith in the unseen?

How can you apply the principles of faith from this verse in your daily life?

Embracing Hope: How Faith and Belief Can Transform Life's Challenges - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Life often presents us with challenges that seem insurmountable. During these times, the strength we draw from our faith—whether in God, a higher power, or ancestral spirits—can be a powerful catalyst for change. At Ms. Otelia's Corner, we believe in the transformative power of belief and hope.

The Turning Point

For me, this came over 30 years ago during the dissolution of my marriage. It was a time marked by complex legal proceedings, emotional turmoil, and extreme financial instability. The process became prolonged and intricate, contributing to a heightened sense of uncertainty and distress in my life.

The Role of Faith

In those moments of despair, my faith, a legacy of strength inherited from my mother, became my refuge. She was the epitome of 'Faith of a Mustard Seed.' Widowed in 1968 and raising seven children, she exemplified unwavering faith in God. Her life was a testament to hope and resilience, teaching us the power of faith. This faith, deeply rooted in our everyday experiences, assured me that my own challenging situation would soon improve. For many, faith manifests in various forms – it might be in God, the guiding hand of ancestors, or any higher power you believe in that offers comfort and guidance. My mother, who joined the ancestors in 2003, continues to guide and inspire her descendants with her enduring legacy.

Whatever Your Situation is, Don't Give Up

Life's challenges can be daunting, but remember they are opportunities for growth and transformation. My story is a testament to how fast situations can turn around in the blink of an eye! It's a reminder that, no matter how difficult things may seem, there is always a glimmer of hope on the horizon.

Have you experienced a moment in your life where faith, in whatever form it takes for you, has helped turn a situation around? Share your stories of hope and transformation in the comments below. Let's inspire each other with our journeys at Ms. Otelia's Corner.  ~Love & Light~

In Memory of My Mother

Thanksgiving Wishes: Crafting Life-Changing Desires with Family Wisdom - Ms Otelia's Corner

A Thanksgiving Revelation: From Comedy to Life Lessons

On Thanksgiving Day, my daughter and I were watching a heartwarming Christmas comedy. The film spun the tale of a man, too caught up in his work, who encounters a genie determined to help him reunite with his family before Christmas by giving him three wishes. This whimsical story sparked an insightful conversation between us. My daughter pointed out, why not combine wishes or think more deeply about their implications?

The Power of Three: Crafting Wishes That Reshape Reality

This discussion with my daughter on Thanksgiving opened up a world of possibilities. Imagine being granted three wishes. This isn't just a child's fantasy; it's a thought experiment that challenges us to reflect deeply on our desires and aspirations. What would you wish for? More importantly, how would you make those wishes count?

The Art of Wish-Making: More Than Just a Fantasy

The concept of being granted three wishes is a common theme in folklore and stories, but it's more than just a whimsical idea. It's a powerful metaphor for understanding our deepest desires and priorities. When faced with such an opportunity, the challenge is to think beyond the superficial and fleeting and focus on wishes that bring long-term fulfillment and happiness.

Guidelines for Crafting Your Wishes

1. Think Holistically: Like the idea of wishing for lifelong financial stability for yourself and your family, it's important to consider the broader impact of your wishes. How will they affect not just you, but the people around you and your future?
2. Be Specific, Yet Flexible: Specificity helps in making your wishes clear and focused, but a touch of flexibility allows them to adapt to life's ever-changing circumstances. For instance, instead of wishing for a specific amount of money, wishing for continuous financial stability adapts to your needs over time.
3. Balance Personal Gain with Greater Good: While it's natural to think of personal benefits, consider how your wishes can contribute to the greater good. A wish for knowledge, wisdom, or the ability to help others can be incredibly powerful.

The Importance of Thoughtful Wishing

Wishing, in this context, isn't just about fantasy. It's a reflection of our values, goals, and what we deem important in life. This exercise encourages introspection and clarity about what we truly want. It's about understanding that the best wishes are those that bring lasting happiness, growth, and benefit not just to ourselves but to the world around us.

Beyond the Wishes: Taking Action

While we may not find a genie's lamp, the exercise of contemplating three wishes is a valuable one. It helps us prioritize our goals and understand what steps we need to take to achieve them. In many ways, we are the genies of our own lives, with the power to make our wishes come true through determination, hard work, and a clear vision.

What would your three wishes be? How would you ensure they bring lasting happiness and fulfillment? Share your thoughts in the comments below and let's explore the fascinating world of wishes and aspirations together. Remember, while we can't wish for more wishes, we can certainly make the ones we have count! 

Reviving Traditional Recipes: A Journey Through Time - Ms. Otelia's Corner

In a world where fast food and instant meals dominate, there's a certain magic in turning the pages of an old cookbook and rediscovering traditional recipes. At Ms. Otelia's Corner, we believe in preserving these culinary treasures that have been passed down through generations.

The Charm of Traditional Recipes

Traditional recipes are more than just instructions for preparing food; they are stories, memories, and a piece of history. They connect us to our past and provide a sense of continuity. In this blog, we'll explore some of these timeless recipes and the stories behind them.

Mama's Apple Pie

Let's start with a classic – the apple pie. This recipe, handed down from my grandmother, is a testament to simplicity and flavor. The key is in the crust – buttery, flaky, and just the right amount of crispness. And the filling? A sweet and tangy mix of pears, cinnamon, and love.  For years, we thought it was apple pie, but it was actually made with pears!

Mama's Chicken Back Soup

Next, we delve into the heartwarming flavors of Mama's Chicken Back Soup. This dish is a testament to resourcefulness and flavor. Made with chicken backs, vegetables, and a rich broth, it's a soul-satisfying meal that speaks of nurturing and care.

Aunt Lucy’s Yeast Rolls

Then, we have Aunt Lucille's Yeast Rolls, a recipe that has graced our family tables for decades. These rolls are soft, fluffy, and golden – perfect for sopping up gravy or enjoying with a pat of butter. The aroma of these baking is enough to transport you back to cherished family gatherings.

Big Mama's Collard Greens

Finally, we pay homage to a soul food staple –Mama's Collard Greens. This dish, steeped in tradition, combines collard greens with savory smoked meat, and a dash of spice, resulting in a deeply flavorful and comforting side that speaks of home and heritage.

The Importance of Preserving Traditional Recipes

In preserving these recipes, we're not just keeping alive the flavors of the past; we're also honoring the love and care that went into creating them. These recipes tell the stories of our ancestors, their lives, and their connection to the land and seasons.

As we continue to explore and revive these traditional recipes, we invite you to join us in this delicious journey through time. Whether it's a pie, a roast, or a simple salad, these dishes are a celebration of our culinary heritage.

Do you have a cherished traditional recipe in your family? Share it with us in the comments below and let's keep the flame of culinary tradition burning bright at Ms. Otelia's Corner. Let's cook, share, and preserve these timeless treasures together.

Momma: Our Mother's Journey of Love and Faith - Ms. Otelia's Corner

In a world where strength is often equated with wealth and prosperity, my mother was a remarkable woman who defied all odds by single-handedly raising seven children after my father's passing in 1968. Our journey was marked by love, faith, and unwavering determination as she embraced the roles of both mother and father. Despite not having material abundance, we never felt deprived or lacking, as her love provided everything we needed.

Our mother took on the mantle of responsibility with grace and determination. She was a woman of deep faith, finding solace in prayer, and one particular psalm held a special place in her heart – Psalm 91. She often recited it, seeking divine protection and guidance for her children. In my adult life, I continue to use it as a source of strength and comfort. Her unshakable belief in the power of prayer became a pillar of strength for our family, sustaining us through challenging times.

Despite facing financial hardships, my mother's resilience and resourcefulness ensured we were never in want. Society may have labeled us as poor, but within the walls of our home, we were surrounded by an abundance of love and care. Our mother was famous for "making a way out of no way," turning adversity into opportunity with her ingenuity and hard work.

Her skills in stretching a dollar and managing limited resources were miraculous. She could transform simple ingredients into delicious meals, and her sewing prowess turned ordinary fabric into extraordinary outfits. Our home was filled with warmth, love, and laughter.

Amidst life's challenges, my siblings and I were always her top priority. Despite the demands of raising seven children, she never hesitated to lend an ear or provide a shoulder to lean on. Her guidance and support were unwavering, and she instilled in us a strong sense of family values, kindness, and compassion for others.

Her love extended beyond her biological children; she welcomed the community into our home as well. Offering meals to those in need or want, she taught us the importance of giving back and being a source of hope for others, even when facing our own difficulties.

As I reflect on our mother's journey, I am humbled by her selflessness and the sacrifices she made for us. Seeking no recognition or praise, her greatest reward was the happiness and well-being of her children. Her resilience, faith, and love have left an indelible mark on each of us, shaping the people we are today.

Our mother's story serves as a powerful reminder that love and determination can conquer any challenge. Gracefully facing adversity, she turned struggles into opportunities to grow stronger. Her unwavering faith and love were the pillars that held our family together.

Though she left this earthly life in 2003, her legacy of resourcefulness and tenacity will continue to serve as a guiding light, inspiring and motivating others to navigate life's challenges with determination and optimism. The way she turned adversity into opportunity with ingenuity and hard work is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the power of positive thinking.

What is your fondest memory of your parents? Your thoughts and stories are valuable to me, so please feel free to share them in the comments section below. I look forward to hearing from you and connecting through our shared experiences.