Remembering our Grandmother. Bessie (née Morton) Johnson 1908-1932

Today Marks the 93rd Anniversary of the death of our Grandmother, Bessie (née Morton) Rominger Turrentine Johnson

Bessie (1908 – June 17, 1932) was the daughter of Novele Morton Rominger (1896–1924) and Ed Rominger (1870–1945). She was one of six children and part of a generation shaped by both hardship and hope.

Her siblings were:

• Edna (1912–1999)

• Fred (1914–1987)

• Mary Jane (1916–1993)

• Clinton (1920–1973)

• A sibling who died in childbirth in 1922

• Dora (1924–1950)

Bessie married Roosevelt Turrentine on March 27, 1929, in Halifax, Virginia, and they had one daughter, Lucille “Lucy” (1927–2004). She later married Troy Johnson on June 19, 1930, in Danville, Virginia, and they had one daughter, Ella Louise Thompson (née Johnson, 1928–2003).

Ella was just five years old when Bessie passed away in 1932. Losing her mother at such a young age left a lasting wound that she carried throughout her life. The absence of Bessie’s presence—her guidance, protection, and love—was deeply felt and often reflected in the way Ella spoke of her mother’s memory. Even without many stories passed down, the grief that followed Bessie’s passing speaks volumes about the love and importance she held in her family’s heart.

Bessie’s legacy continues through her grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren, who carry forward the memory of her life and lineage.

Honoring Those Who Came Before Us: A Simple Reflection on Ancestral Veneration - Ms. Otelia's Corner

In many cultures, ancestral veneration is not about worship — it’s about respect, remembrance, and relationship. It’s the quiet understanding that we didn’t get here on our own. We carry the prayers, the pain, and the perseverance of those who came before us — whether we know their names or not.

For some, honoring ancestors means lighting a candle or placing a photo on an altar. For others, it’s cooking a family recipe, saying a name out loud, or simply taking a moment to give thanks. There’s no one way to do it, and that’s the beauty of it — ancestral veneration is personal, powerful, and rooted in presence.

Here’s the truth:

• You don’t need expensive tools.

• You don’t need to know your whole family tree.

• You don’t even need to have the “right” words.

All you need is intention.

A whispered thank you in the morning.
A cup of coffee poured in someone’s memory.
A photo dusted and displayed with care.

These are acts of connection — reminders that life doesn’t begin and end with us. We are links in a long, unbroken chain.

For me, ancestral veneration is about grounding.

Grounding is the practice of reconnecting yourself to the present moment — mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When life feels chaotic or uncertain, grounding helps bring you back to center. And remembering your ancestors — their strength, their survival, their sacrifices — can be a powerful way to do that.

When I pause to honor them, I remember that I’m not standing on shaky ground. I’m standing on stories, on prayers, on strength that was passed down. Whether I light a candle or just speak their name, it reminds me: I’m not alone. I come from something. I am something.

That’s what ancestral veneration does.
It brings peace in the present.
It gives meaning to the past.
And it plants strength for the future.

Gratitude at 65: A Celebration of Life's Simple Joys - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Today, on my 65th birthday, I find myself reflecting on the beauty of the simplicity in life. As the years pass, birthdays often become more than just another year; they are moments to pause and appreciate the journey we’ve been on. While grand celebrations have their place, I’ve come to value the quiet significance of these milestones. This year, I am embracing the theme of gratitude and marking the day in a way that truly resonates with me.

The simplicity of this day is not a lack of celebration but a deliberate choice to cherish what matters most. Life’s daily demands often leave little room for peace and stillness, so today, I am stepping away from schedules and obligations. Instead, I’m gifting myself the luxury of living the day at my own pace—a rare and treasured joy.

Simple days have a way of revealing life’s often-overlooked treasures: the quiet of a morning, the comfort of a favorite book, or the warmth of heartfelt calls from family and friends. These small, beautiful moments form the essence of today’s celebration, grounding me in the present and reminding me of life’s richness.

On this special day, I also celebrate the memory of my beloved siblings: Elaine (Cookie), Vanessa (Van), and Ronnie, whose lives were filled with love, laughter, and warmth. Their spirits continue to enrich my life, even in their absence.

I’ll cherish memories of Ronnie’s humor and his strong, protective love for our family. I’ll smile as I think of Cookie, who saw everyone she met as family, calling my name in her unique, sing-song voice that I adored. I’ll remember her joy in taking the kids to Coney Island, fishing, and crabbing. And my sister Van, who thought I was the smartest person in the world and brought laughter to the kitchen with her love of baseball, card games, and Chinese food. When she declared, “I’m sweeping,” I knew Cookie and I were on dish duty! Their love and light remain with me always.

As I celebrate turning 65, my heart is full of gratitude. I am thankful for the years I’ve lived, the lessons I’ve learned, and the countless blessings along the way. I am grateful for the love and support of my family and friends and for the strength and resilience that life’s challenges have instilled in me.

Looking ahead, I embrace the future with hope and an open heart. Each day is an opportunity to grow, connect, and experience the beauty of life anew. I am ready to welcome whatever lies ahead, guided by the gratitude that has shaped this special day.

Happy 65th Birthday to me!

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What brings you gratitude today? Take a moment to reflect on the people and moments that make life meaningful. Share your thoughts and celebrate with me in the comments below!

How to Celebrate the Holidays on a Budget Without Missing the Festive Spirit

The holidays are a time for joy and togetherness, but they can also be financially stressful. If you’re looking to enjoy the season without breaking the bank, you’re in the right place. Here are simple, budget-friendly ideas to keep the festive spirit alive.

1. DIY Holiday Decorations

Skip the expensive store-bought décor and get creative. Use items you already have at home to make personalized decorations. String popcorn garlands, fold paper snowflakes, or repurpose jars into candle holders. DIY projects are fun and can bring a festive touch to your space.

2. Give Thoughtful, Low-Cost Gifts

Gifts don’t have to be pricey to be meaningful. Consider baking cookies, crafting homemade candles, or writing heartfelt letters. A personalized touch can mean more than an expensive store-bought item.

3. Host a Potluck

Holiday meals can add up quickly. If you’re hosting, ask each guest to bring a dish. This not only cuts costs but also makes for a diverse and memorable spread. If you’re spending the holidays solo, you can still prepare a small, affordable feast just for yourself.

4. Enjoy Free or Low-Cost Activities

Look for community events like free light displays, caroling, or holiday markets. Many cities offer free or low-cost activities during the season. Alternatively, have a cozy movie night at home or explore local parks for a peaceful winter walk.

5. Plan Virtual Gatherings

If you can’t be with loved ones in person, host a virtual holiday party. Use video chat platforms to share a meal, play games, or simply catch up. Virtual gatherings save travel costs while keeping the connection alive.

6. Focus on Gratitude and Togetherness

Sometimes, the best things about the holidays aren’t material. Take time to reflect on what you’re grateful for and cherish the moments with those around you. Even if you’re spending the season alone, connecting with friends or family online can make the holidays feel special.

Celebrating the holidays on a budget doesn’t mean sacrificing joy. With a little creativity and thoughtfulness, you can make this season meaningful without overspending. Remember, the true spirit of the holidays comes from the love, connection, and memories you create.

What are some of your favorite low-cost holiday traditions that make the season special for you?

The Beauty of Positive Thinking!

Positive thinking offers us a light of hope. It goes beyond just viewing everything with a very optimistic lens. It involves shifting our viewpoint when faced with life's challenges. I recall a time when I encountered a health scare. On a Thursday afternoon, I underwent a medical test for the second time. All was well until I got a call on Friday evening, after the doctor's office had closed, informing me of another appointment scheduled for Monday morning. Instantly, my mind soared into a frenzy, wondering why they would contact me at 7 pm on a Friday. Couldn't this wait until the next working day? My mind instantly went into overdrive, resorting to online searches for symptoms similar to mine. I nearly reached a state of panic, with my heart pounding and tears streaming. However, it was the practice of positive thinking that pulled me back. It was about shifting my attitude on this situation and life's obstacles in general. Let’s talk about it!

Positive thinking begins internally. It's about being aware of our thoughts and actively guiding them towards optimism and hope. This doesn't mean ignoring life's tough moments but rather approaching them with a mindset geared towards finding solutions and personal growth.

Benefits of Positive Thinking:

• Enhanced Well-being: People who practice positive thinking often enjoy better physical and mental health. Which includes reduced stress, stronger immune function, and a lower risk of chronic health issues.
• Improved Resilience: With a positive outlook, navigating life's challenges becomes easier. It helps us recover from setbacks, viewing them as temporary and manageable.
• Stronger Relationships: Positivity is infectious. It improves our mood and can have a beneficial impact on those around us, leading to more satisfying and more supportive relationships.
• Greater Success: Maintaining a positive attitude can lead to new opportunities. It fosters a growth mindset, where challenges are seen as avenues for learning and advancement, contributing to both personal and professional achievements.

Strategies for Fostering Positive Thinking:

• Mindfulness and Gratitude: Begin each day by recognizing and valuing the positives in your life. Practicing mindfulness keeps us anchored in the present.
• Positive Affirmations: Employ affirmations to bolster optimistic thoughts. These potent phrases can alter your mindset and enhance your self-assurance. "I am capable and strong” and “I can handle any challenge" can significantly lift our spirits.
• Positive Environment: The surroundings and company you choose have a significant impact on your mindset. Opt for positive influences, whether through people, literature, or media.
• Learning from Challenges: Rather than fixating on difficulties, allow yourself a moment to process emotions. Then, seek out the lessons and opportunities for growth in these situations. This shift in perspective can transform obstacles into stepping stones.

The true value of positive thinking lies in its ability to profoundly affect our lives through simple yet impactful changes in our internal dialogue, thereby altering our external reality. By adopting a positive approach, we open the door to endless possibilities, joy, and satisfaction. Let's commit to focusing on the positives and witness the transformation in our lives.

The essence of positive thinking is not merely theoretical; it's a transformative practice I attempt to apply consistently. Begin with small steps, maintain regularity, and observe the transformation in the world around you.

A Celebration of Life's Simple Joys: Happy Birthday to Me - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Today, on my 64th birthday, I find myself reflecting on the beauty in the simplicity of life. As we get older, birthdays are often associated with grand celebrations and elaborate plans, which can sometimes overshadow the essence of what they truly signify – another year of life, experiences, and growth. This year, I've decided to embrace a quieter, simpler way to mark this special day, focusing on what truly matters to me.

The idea of a simple day might sound unexciting to some, but for me, it's a source of enormous joy and happiness. The hustle and bustle of daily life, with its never-ending demands and pressures, often leaves little room for stillness and peace. Today, I am stepping away from all that. No rushing, no schedules, just a day lived at my own pace.

There is an underrated beauty in simple days – they allow us to appreciate the small things in life that we often overlook. A quiet morning, the comfort of a favorite book, or the simple act of being present in the moment – along with some calls from family and friends. These are the things that today will be for me.

Today, I will also celebrate my siblings, Elaine (Cookie), Vanessa (Van), and Ronnie, who passed away while still in their prime. I will honor them by remembering the great times we had. Memories of Ronnie making us all laugh during meals at the kitchen table, his strong sense of family, and his protective nature over all of us. Cookie, the sweetest person I ever knew, to whom everyone she met became her cousin. She would say my name in a sing-song voice that lasted a note too long, but I loved it. She loved to take our kids out to Coney Island, fishing, and crabbing. My sister Van thought I was the smartest person in the world and loved baseball, a good card game, and Chinese food. When it was time to clean the kitchen, she always yelled, “I’m sweeping.” That meant Cookie and I would get stuck with washing, drying, and putting away the dishes. Come to think of it, I hardly ever got to sweep. I miss them so much!

As I celebrate my 64th birthday, my heart is filled with gratitude. I am grateful for the years I've had, the people who've enriched my life, and the experiences that have shaped who I am today. Looking ahead, I am excited about what the future holds and am ready to embrace whatever comes with an open heart and a peaceful mind.

Happy Birthday to me!

A Serene New Year's Eve: Reflections and Fireworks from My Terrace - Ms. Otelia's Corner

As the year draws to a close, many of us seek a moment of reflection and anticipation. This New Year's Eve, I'm embracing a serene celebration from the comfort of my terrace, a place of peace and panoramic beauty.

From my vantage point, the night sky becomes a canvas for the spectacular fireworks displays that mark the arrival of the New Year. I have the privilege of seeing the dazzling lights over the Empire State Building, the majestic Verrazano Bridge, the vibrant scenes of downtown Brooklyn, and other local celebrations. Each burst of color in the sky is a reminder of the city's pulsating energy and the collective spirit of hope and joy.

In this serene setting, I'll be sipping pomegranate juice from a wine glass, a simple yet elegant way to celebrate. The rich, deep color and the sweet, tangy taste of the juice add to the night's special ambiance. It's a moment to savor the small pleasures that life offers.

As the clock ticks towards midnight, my thoughts turn to gratitude and prayer. This quiet time is an opportunity to thank God and honor the ancestors for their blessings and guidance. It's a moment to reflect on the past year's journey and to seek strength and wisdom for the days ahead.

The crescendo of fireworks ushers in the New Year, a symbol of new beginnings and fresh possibilities. It's a time to set intentions, embrace new dreams, and look forward to the adventures that await. The vibrant fireworks are a metaphor for life's unexpected joys and challenges, reminding us to cherish each moment.

From my terrace, the world feels both expansive and intimate on this New Year's Eve. It's a night for peaceful contemplation, heartfelt thanks, and the joy of simple things. As we step into the New Year, let's carry with us the lessons of the past and the hope for a brighter future. Wishing everyone a peaceful and prosperous New Year from Ms. Otelia's Corner.

Exploring the Essence of Faith: Insights from Hebrews 11:1 - Ms. Otelia's Corner

Hebrews 11:1 is celebrated as one of the most profound and inspiring verses in the Bible, it is often highlighted as a central description of faith within the Christian tradition. It eloquently states, "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen." In this blog, we will explore the various interpretations of this verse and consider how its message can resonate in our daily lives. Our aim is to engage with Hebrews 11:1 in a way that inspires personal reflection and offers insight into how faith can be a source of hope and strength, especially during challenging times.

While the Book of Hebrews was originally written for Jewish Christians, its messages resonate universally, especially in the context of enduring challenging times. Hebrews 11, often referred to as the "Faith Chapter," which is particularly relevant. It serves as a beacon of hope and strength, not just for its initial audience, but for anyone seeking solace and guidance during trials and tribulations.

Hebrews 11:1 offers two key components of faith: assurance and conviction. Assurance refers to a confident expectation, a trust in God's promises. Conviction, on the other hand, is a firm belief in the reality of the unseen – the spiritual truths that guide our lives. This verse teaches us that faith is not just wishful thinking, but a confident belief in God's promises and His character.

The essence of faith is not just in understanding but in action. The subsequent verses in Hebrews 11 provide examples of faith in action from biblical figures like Abraham, Moses, and Sarah. Their stories illustrate how faith is not passive but involves active trust and obedience to God, even when the outcome is not visible.

In today's world, where tangible evidence and scientific proof are highly valued, Hebrews 11:1 challenges us to embrace a different kind of certainty – one that is rooted in spiritual conviction and trust in God. It encourages believers to hold onto hope and trust in God's plan, even when the path is unclear.

Faith, as described in Hebrews 11:1, has the power to transform lives. It gives strength in times of trouble, provides hope in despair, and brings clarity in confusion. Faith is the lens through which we can see the world in a different light – one filled with possibilities and divine guidance.

Hebrews 11:1 is more than just a verse; it's a call to a deeper, more profound relationship with God. It invites us to trust in Him, to see beyond our current circumstances, and to believe in the unseen. As we reflect on this powerful scripture, let us strive to embody the true essence of faith in our daily lives.

How does Hebrews 11:1 change your understanding of faith?

Can you recall a time when you had to rely on faith in the unseen?

How can you apply the principles of faith from this verse in your daily life?

Gratitude: Transforming Life One Thankful Moment at a Time - Ms. Otelia's Corner

In the whirlwind of our daily lives, it's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of the next big thing, often overlooking the small gems of happiness that lie scattered around us. Today, let's pause and reflect on a powerful, yet frequently underestimated tool that can transform our everyday experiences: gratitude.

Gratitude isn't just a warm feeling; it's a practice backed by science. Studies have shown that regularly expressing gratitude can lead to significant improvements in mental and physical health. It has been linked to better sleep, reduced stress, and a stronger immune system. On a psychological level, gratitude can lift our spirits, increase resilience, and foster a more optimistic outlook on life.

I remember a day not too long ago, when everything seemed to go wrong. I was damned if I did and damned if I didn't.  Afterward, I took a moment to think about three things I was grateful for. A warm home, supportive loved ones, and the last days I spent with my Mama. This shifted my perspective of that day. It reminded me that even on the toughest days, moments of gratitude are present.

Incorporating gratitude into your daily life can be simple and profound. Here are a few ways to start:

• Keep a Gratitude Journal: Each night, write down three things you were grateful for that day.
• Express Thanks Regularly: Whether it's a text to a friend or a thank you note, make it a habit to express your appreciation to others.
• Mindfulness Practices: Take a few moments each day to be present and acknowledge the good around you, whether it's savoring a meal or pulling a memory from the crevices of your mind.

Gratitude doesn't just benefit us individually; it has the power to radiate outward. When we express gratitude, we not only uplift ourselves but also those around us. It strengthens our relationships and can create a more positive environment, whether at home, work, or other situations.

Gratitude is more than just saying 'thank you.' It's a mindset, a way of seeing the world. It's about recognizing the good in our lives and understanding that, often, happiness comes from appreciation, not acquisition. By making gratitude a regular practice, we open ourselves up to a more fulfilling, contented life.

Now, I'd love to hear from you. How has gratitude impacted your life? What are you thankful for today? Share your stories of gratitude in the comments below. Let's inspire each other with our experiences and spread the joy of thankfulness. Remember, it's the small moments of gratitude that can lead to a lifetime of happiness.

Resources

The Science of Gratitude 

Giving thanks can make you happier

The Psychology of Gratitude

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